Why Did I Have A Panic Attack? I NEED TO KNOW! (Podcast Ep 251)

Hey there I’m Drew and you are listening to or watching And this week you really should be watching the anxious truth. This is the podcast and YouTube channel that covers all things: anxiety, anxiety disorders, and anxiety recovery.

So if you’re struggling with things like panic, attacks, panic disorder, agoraphobia, or health anxiety, this is the place for you And I’m glad that you’re here This week we’re starting a special series on the podcast.

I’m going to take you to one of the places that used to terrify me that used to induce all kinds of panic and high anxiety And while we’re there, we’re going to talk about the idea that you don’t always Have to figure out why you panicked deciphering, a panic attack is not necessarily part of the recovery process, So let’s get to it, And I will remind you before we do start.

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Now, Hello, everybody! Welcome back to the anxious truth, This is podcast episode, number 251 Recorded in March of 2022.

I am Drew Linsalata creator and host of the anxious truth.

If this is your first time here in the podcast or the YouTube channel welcome, I hope you find this all helpful If you are a returning viewer or returning listener.

I’m glad you’re here Welcome back So this week we’re going to start a special series of podcasts that I kind of promised to my folks on Instagram, where I’m, going to take you to places that I used to refuse To go when I was struggling with the worst of panic, attacks, anxiety, agoraphobia, OCD, all of the things I would hate to go to these places and I’m going to start to go to these places with you And I’m, going to record podcast Episodes in those places We’ll talk about what my experience was and what I do to get over it And we’ll also talk about whatever the podcast topic is for that week, But we’re going to do it in those places And today We’re going to start in a special place that you might not expect, but it was a thing So today, while we’re in that special place And starting our first series, we’re going to talk about the idea that you do not have To decipher a panic attack, A lot of people want to figure out why they panicked and they get sucked down the rabbit hole of trying to figure out what triggered it. What can they do next time to make sure it doesn’t happen? What can they eat or drink differently? What can they do differently? What can they avoid That’s, not part of the process that we’re talking about here And today we’re going to talk about why, while they take you to that special, formerly terrifying panic-inducing place.

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I appreciate your support, So let’s get into today,’s topic.

Why do you not have to figure out why you panicked? Why is that not part of the recovery equation And let’s go to that first place that used to really terrify me and that I would panic when I went to So let’s get to it, And I will come back here to wrap It up at the end, Okay, so here we go As promised.

I am recording this podcast at the end of my driveway, And why am I doing that? Because I promised that I would do a series of podcasts, where I record from places that I used to be terrified to go.

This is one of them.

The end of my driveway, the end of my driveway is maybe 40 feet from my front door. At the most – And I’ll put some B roll in here, So you can see just how shorter a walk.

It is down the down the out my front door and down to the bottom of this driveway, where I’m standing.

Maybe two more steps – And I’m actually in the road in the street And back in the day when I was doing the heavy lifting of recovery – And I was going through antidepressant withdrawal.

So we’re talking about well over 10 or 12 years ago and that’s that period between like 2006 and 2009 when I was doing most of this work, this was a really difficult place for me to be – and I might come here to Put the trash cans out or take the trash cans in like really didn’t want to do that, But that was my job, So I had to do it Or I would come to the mailbox to check for mail or put mail in the mailbox.

So the postman would pick it up And there were many many times when I came to the bottom of this driveway in full panic because I was afraid I was just afraid It’s a little bit embarrassing.

Now I mean not embarrassing, but it is sobering to say that, but I would be afraid to come to the end of my driveway 40 feet from my front door, and I would come here with my like shaking and I would feel like.

I couldn’t breathe, And I was doing that thing where, like I’m, trying to fill my lungs and I’m, taking these giant heavy breaths and my legs would be shaking And my vision would be weird And it felt like the sort of World was spinning, or I was leaning to one side or the other.

I just felt very unsteady, And I was just afraid I was just really afraid – And I would come down here and do what I had to do and then quickly run back up and get back in the house.

And it would take me a while to recover from that.

So I had quite a few episodes of panic right here at the bottom of my driveway And if I’m going to be completely transparent and honest with you guys I’m going to record podcast episodes from places. I used to be afraid to go, and have to start here because this was my reality for a while.

So the whole podcast episode won’t be here at the bottom, just about talking about my driveway.

But I will tell you that there were many times when I would stand at my front door And I would wait – And I would debate with myself and I would have been hauling, go back and forth and try to get up the courage to walk out the Door to come 40 Steps to the end of this driveway And I’d already be kind of in a panic and knowing that, if I walked out the door, I would panic even more And especially if my job was to take out a trash can And That trash can was heavy because sometimes they are.

That would set me off even more because that meant that I would breathe a little heavier Or I might my heart would race a little more And back in those days.

I was not in as good a shape as I am right now.

I’m older, been in better shape now than I was then, Because people with panic, disorder and agoraphobia tend to be kind of sedentary, and I still had some weight on me for my antidepressant days.

So that would trigger me in a big way.

If I had to take out a heavy trashcan or you know heavy garbage bag, I would not want to do it, because I knew that my heart would start to pound and I would didn’t want that.

I was afraid of that So anyway.

Here I am starting this little series of places I used to be afraid of at the bottom of my driveway And just know that if you’re struggling to get to the bottom of your driveway or get out into your backyard or your garden or whatever You call it wherever you live, I get you because I was used to And these were hard days. So if you’re struggling like I was then just maybe take a little bit of heart and know that I used to struggle too, but now I wouldn’t think about the bottom of the driveway.

If I wasn’t here recording for you, It’s a nonthing And we’re gon na, go on in this series and do way more stuff.

I’m going to go to New York City with you.

I’m going to go to the airport with you.

We’re going to go to the beaches.

We’re going to do all this stuff, So it won’t be every week, But stay tuned.

I will sprinkle them in as logistics allow.

So let’s get to the actual meat of today’s podcast episode, which is the idea that you have to figure out.

Why did I panic? Why did that happen? So always remember that here we’re dealing with anxiety, disorders, or disordered state of anxiety, where part of that definition is that you are anxious about being anxious, you’re, afraid of being afraid.

You are panicking because you panic So in those situations we’re, not talking about just like life, is stressing me out, And I’m not ever telling you to ignore your emotions or ignore your life. If you’re in an abusive situation, If you’re in you know a bad relationship where you’re being manipulated or even harmed, or you’re working for the crappy company and you hate it, they’re.

Those things do matter, like the source of your stress, does matter in life, But when we are talking about, why did I panic and you are in a situation where you are just afraid of the panic and the panic becomes the source of the panic and that Original stress is contributing, but not the trigger any more than digging for triggers and trying to figure out why it happened is not fruitful at all.

So if you’re kind of new to this – and maybe you’re just sort of new to the podcast or new to my books or whatever it is, that might be a strange concept for you, because part of your probably desperate attempt to stop your Panic attacks or control them or keep them from happening was probably to spend a lot of time to try to unearth your triggers and know what your triggers are.

I have to find my trigger so that I, Why do you have to find your triggers? So you can avoid them Right And that isn’t working out so well.

So a lot of people do spend a lot of time going down that rabbit hole where they are attempting to identify every possible thing that triggers the state of panic.

And I was there, I blamed everything for everything food that I ate like the too many phone calls.

I blamed every possible thing I could think of and after a while, I ran out of things to blame And I ran out of things to avoid.

So I always tell the story once of having a real panic attack, maybe half an hour after I’ve eaten Chinese food with my family, And I didn’t eat Chinese food again for like four years, probably longer, because I was 100 convinced that it was The Chinese food that triggered that panic attack – No, it was the 10 panic attacks before that week, that triggered the one that I thought was all about an egg roll.

So I was wrong.

So the bottom line here in this particular podcast episode is you do not have to figure out why you panicked Again when you get out of this state, where you’re, just always afraid of yourself, where you’re, always worried about panic. You’re, always scanning you, ‘re trying to control it.

They just keep happening And the panic itself has become the problem for you Once you get out of that state, then yes, stress management, trigger management, taking care of yourself, not subjecting yourself to, yourself, abuse,e or pastorillnesss or negativity Yeah.

Those are all reasonable bits of life advice that most people would follow, And I’m a big fan of stress management and things of that nature and taking care of yourself, But right now we can’t get stuck in.

Why did I panic at all That’s not fruitful at all. Now? Where do I hear this? The most I either hear it from people who are kind of new to this, And they think that okay cool, I’m gon na get involved with this dude from New York who’s on his driveway recording a podcast and we’re gon na Identify my triggers And no you’re, not because we don’t talk about the we don’t talk about that right here, But most so you’re gon na have to sort of let go of that, like I just said, but so I Hear it really most from people who are kind of down the road and recovery where they’re, getting the job done And they’re changing their relationship with fear And they’re getting better at having panic attacks And they’re losing the fear And the panic attacks So therefore they begin to have less panic attacks, which is, I know where everybody wants to go, And that is the happy secondary side effect of learning to be better at relating to panic and fear, And they be they’re getting better And that’s awesome Because you start to realize, like wow I don’t panic as much as I used to or a man I haven’t had a panic attack.

I’ve had four panic-free days for the first time in two years And that’s an amazing day that’s a day to celebrate for sure.

But then, on day five you have a panic attack most times people when especially the first time that happens to them, will immediately start going to, but why I didn’t have any for five days?

I didn’t have any for two weeks.

I didn’t have any for two months And then I had a panic attack.

Why? What caused it? What was it? What was the trigger? What was I doing? What did I eat? Where was I You can’t go there? You can’t go there that won’t help you at all, So part of that idea is that you have to then dig in and again try to figure out why you had a panic attack.

It’s literally because you are still not confident in that state that you’re in Trust me on this. One.

People who begin to experience fewer and fewer panic attacks, and who feel less and less anxious are often all over.

My Facebook group and in my comment section being anxious about not being anxious or wondering if it’s going to last or not believing that it will last like what if it comes back, What if this is fake, What if it all comes crashing down – and I have a relapse.

People who are recovering often worry that they are not actually going to recover and they worry about it all falling apart they’re always looking for the anxiety and they’re still looking for the panic and then it comes, And that’s why It comes So that’s, okay, You don’t – have to dig in and start trying to figure out desperately.

Well, what caused my panic attack? What was my trigger? Why did it come back after so long? Well, it just did well mostly because you’re still scanning and you’re, still afraid that it might come back.

So it does Now.

If you’re further down the road and you have, ‘t experienced panic in a year and a half or two years, and you do experience a panic attack, or maybe it’s been even longer There’s.

Still, that thing where, like I, don’t, have to dig so much Now, I may be in a situation where I can say yeah, I’m not sleeping a whole lot.

I’m not eating very well.

I’m stressed to the max. Like I’m, I can’t take any more.

I’m just bubbling over And yeah.

It turned into a panic attack.

Sometimes, when we get to that recovered state, we can identify that, like oh yeah, life pushed me into a panic attack, But that’s okay Because then you realize that and you think well it wasn’t, because something is wrong with me: It wasn’t because I was going insane It wasn’t because I was having a stroke or a heart attack.

I just got stressed to the max and it pushed me over the edge That’s a good place to be.

But if you don’t recognize that yet, and you still find yourself drawn to what was the trigger, What did I eat? What was it? Is there something wrong with me Like the old ways That’s, where you have to remember my words right now, So when you do have a panic attack after not having one for days or weeks or months or even a couple of years, try to remember My words, why did I have this panic attack? You’re gon na.

Ask that, because everybody just naturally does if you find yourself getting trapped on the hamster wheel of trying to figure it out because you’re afraid of the reason why you had a panic attack And it’s time to go back to the things that You learned that you are practicing that got you to where you were to begin with, So go back to the things that had you panic, free or not so anxious or having fewer panic attacks.

Don’t get sucked in because it will try to pull you back in And it will try to make you ruminate and think and analyze and figure out it’s going to do that recognize when it’s happening and remember.

Oh, that’s right – I just have to treat this like.

I used to treat panic attacks Like they’re, not important. It was scary.

I didn’t like it.

I wish it didn’t happen.

I hope it doesn’t happen again.

That’s, okay, But I handled it And I’m going to have to do it.

The way I used to do it, The things that got me to where I am now in recovery and I’m going to keep going, And then one day.

If all goes to plan and all goes well, you will wake up, and maybe you will have a panic attack that you and you have, n’t had for so long Or you might have a particularly anxious day that you haven’t had in a Long time And you will be able to say, I know why this happened, Because my left, my life, was a mess right now or because I had a huge fight with my partner or because I just got laid off from my job or because I’m.

Having money problems my kids are making me crazy, or there’s a big illness in the family Or I just suffered a huge loss.

Maybe someone close to me has passed you’ll know you. ‘ll know That’s.

What recovered people, do you? 39. Ll know I had a panic attack because I got overwhelmed And that’s – okay, I don’t like it, But it doesn’t mean something is wrong with me And I don’t have to be afraid of it And I can concentrate on The part of my life that sort of pushed me into that, and I can deal with my grief or deal with my loss or deal with my financial problems or my career problems or my family problems or whatever it is.

You begin to know that the panic attack is just an expression of something happening outside of you and you stop trying to figure out what’s going on inside of you That’s, when you know you’re done That’s.

When you know you did it, you are recovered.

Welcome! Congratulations! So that’s enough rambling on at the bottom of my silly driveway about why you do not have to figure out why you have panic attacks.

I know that for some people they don’t like when.

I say that, because it sounds like I’m, invalidating their emotions or validating their experiences.

Your emotions matter and your experiences do matter, But you have to recognize when you have become more afraid and more stressed by the panic itself than anything that may have caused it in your life.

I’m not saying that those things don’t matter anymore But recognize when you are afraid of being afraid recognize when you are catastrophizing about the panic recognize when you are, you know finding meaning and panic that generally revolves around what’s going to happen when you panic, as opposed to what happened that may be made me panic, see the difference So recognize when you’re trapped there And remember I don’t right now.

I don’t have to know why I panic right now, Maybe one day when I’m in a better place, I can have a little bit more of a healthy, normal, productive relationship with that I could look at that and I could do something about It That’s just good life management, a good stress management, But for now I do not have to worry about why I panicked.

I only have to know that I did I didn’t like it. I prefer that did not happen again, But once again it didn’t take me down And I can handle that That’s, where you want to maintain your focus, if at all possible, So that’s it.

I hope you enjoyed my recording at the bottom of my silly driveway.

I hope you got something out of my driveway story, The next time we do this.

I don’t know where I’m going to go, But I will bring you along for that too.

I have a couple of ideas, but I’ll just sort of let it unfold.

While I can, I will pop back into the studio, which is just my office, and I’ll wrap this up.

The way I usually do And yeah thanks for listening, I’ll see in a minute.

Okay, we’re back in the studio like I said, which is just my office, where I always am – And I was only about 35 or 40 feet in a straight line that way and recording this podcast episode.

It was a little unorthodox And it got a little bit uncomfortable a couple of times because they could see a couple of my neighbors were out sort of looking like What’s that guy doing, But that’s, alright, we can handle it.

We’ll just comfort right, Right hopefully we have shed some light on the idea that you do not have to figure out why you panicked, and digging in to try to figure that out often things make things worse than they already are. So if you’re getting sucked down that rabbit hole, just remember my words from today.

Back away from that, I promise you’ll be happy that you did that, So that is it.

That is episode 251 of The Anxious Truth in the Books.

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Hopefully, this has been a helpful episode.

I hope you enjoyed my little trip down memory lane to a place that used to be so hard for me to go. We’re going to do it again, Maybe not next week, but we will.

I will be back next week with another podcast episode.

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Talking about.

Don’t know where I’m going to be, But I will be here and remember: every step forward is a good step forward, no matter how small it is See you next week, Yeah you’re doing now in the city.

You know looking back at dwelling on the past, you know you’ll never get another chance, So you go and live your life.

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